No greater healing than love

Hi there beautiful people

Today I’m going to speak about love. Yeah, cliché I know but there is so much we are ignorant to when being in a state of depression. We see people in love as people who are wearing rose-colored glasses and way too optimistic but let me spit some facts.

Us who are suffering from mental health disorders, tend to close ourselves off from the world. This is because of the fear of getting hurt and stereotyping groups of people. But we forget that not everyone is the same. If you are maybe a partner of someone who is a relationship just know how special, you are to that person. You have no idea how much it takes to open ourselves up and let our guard down. It is tough without the disorder but so much harder with it. So be patient with them, try and understand things from their point of view. And acknowledge how hard they try to make you happy.

As said before I have a boyfriend myself and often find myself getting defensive over the smallest issues. If I’m not defensive, I end up questioning everything and getting extremely insecure. Yeah, I know it’s not the healthiest thing to do but it becomes a default setting. I doubted myself so much that I project that fear onto my relationship.

None of these are okay but most of the time it is out of our control.

That’s why I asked you to be patient with us. But like I say with every post, life is all about choices…

Some tips to combat these feelings:

Check yourself

It is so important to bring yourself back to the reality of things. The only reason these feelings come up is because you are relating things to the past. It is good to do that to learn from it but at the same time we shouldn’t let past experiences affect our present. So, stop blaming your bae for the mistakes of past people. Remember to check yourself and remind yourself who exactly you are dealing with. Breathe

In times of arguments and hardships, things tend to get heated, and we say things we don’t mean. But remind yourself to breathe because you can get caught up in the pain of it all. Yes, it is extremely painful to fight with our loved ones but remember what you are fighting… I prefer to look at it this way, it isn’t me against him but me and him against the problem we are facing.

After reading all this I’m realizing it is not only love advice for people suffering from mental health disorders but to most relationships. And saying this, no two relationships are the same. Some people may do certain things that others will never do. But that’s the beauty of it all. It is so special finding someone who shares your hobbies and like and dislikes.

But the most beautiful part of love is when two people grow together

I think I’ve said enough. Enjoy the rest of your day beauties